How do you 'celebrate' the birth date of a child you have lost? Meica's firt birthday was a mere month after her death. We had phone calls from family and friends to support us. They asked what we were doing to mark the day.
Not knowing how to mark the day, I had worried about how we would deal with this new situtation. The night before, as I lay in bed unable to sleep, I suddenly knew what we should do. We had already planned to attend morning mass, but I suggested to Bill that we go and buy a special candle holder, and burn a candle for Meica all day.
That evening, the calls began to pour in from supportive family and friends. They asked what we had done that day, and we told them about how we had lit a candle for Meica. Most people left the conversation vowing to light one for Meica too. It was comforting to know that we were united in lighting candles for her, and in our thoughts. I envisioned her looking down on us and seeing those candles for her spread across Canada, and how they would look like a birthday cake from up above.
This felt so right. The following year, we posted this in the Memorium section of the paper, sent out e-mails and faxed others in an invitation to join us in lighting a birthday cake for Meica that she could see from where ever she was.
Thursday, August 14, 1997
Meica Laine Mansiere Bristol
August 27, 1986 - July 20, 1997
Last year throughout Sask. (Saskatchewan) and in B.C. (British Columbia), candles were lit on Meica's birthday. We said it was "birthday candles she could see from Heaven". This year on July 20, and again on her birthday, we will be lighting candles in her memory. We invite those who also loved "Our beautiful Sue" to remember her with us in this way.
With great love and great sadness, Dad and Mom (Bill and Annette) and big brother, Logan.
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